Single and Alone in Groups of Couples

My partner died 14 years ago, I am retired and have only a small handful of friends most of home still work. I travel a lot and read my paper over coffee each day. Going to Gay Village coffee houses is no better than a straight environment. I find people stand off-ish and get no support. My life in the theatre makes me an outgoing person but I get no feedback. I just finished a Cruise alone and on the ship were 12 Gay couples. On Friends of Dorothy meetings each day...I was ignored and not included no matter how hard I tried, so I stopped going. I think the problem is Gays confuse a chat and companionship with an effort to pick them up. Please...not a chance yet the, I'm too wonderful and in a relationship to chat with you mindset prevails. We desperately need travel clubs for singles where you can get to know one another and don't mention Prime Timers...they have coffee frequently as a group where I go and never respond with as much as a nod if they are too select to be inclusive!
I enjoy so much chat and fun with straight couples on ships and at resorts...they don't feel threatened by as single Gay guy. Bring back sit down beer pubs where people joined the table for a place to sit and you made friends and could talk with no strings. To the couples who ignore singles I say, “Get over yourself”. My partner and I used to adopt singles when we travelled and not for sex. No wonder so many decide to “Stop the world and get off”.
Tim, Ontario